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Originally posted by UnseenWorld
CONCLUSION: As noted by Tom Leykis in his top-ranked radio show: Never date (and certainly never move in with!) an unmarried or divorced mother.
Well-intentioned legislators, agencies, and courts, who want to make sure that children get adequate financial support, are actually screwing things up majorly for unmarried/divorced women seeking new partners, since virtually any dating or sexual relationship withsuch a woman can make you responsible for her child(ren).
The result is that these women are now becoming pariahs.
On a tangent, I think that any woman who goes out and intentionally has a child without giving it a father should be taken out and shot!
I understand that people get divorced. Shit happens. However, to intentionally bring a child into the world without a father is selfish and self-indulgent. There is not law saying that every women HAS to have a child merely because she wants one.
(And yes, I was simply being hyperbolic with the "taken out and shot" remark.)
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I read through this thread twice, and kept coming back to this post. I normally make it a point to stay out of emotionally-charged debates, but this one warrants stepping outside of my own rules for a moment.
Opinions are like assholes, pal. I'd be willing to bet that my son, whom I gave birth to because I CHOSE to and who has never and will never see his biological father or any of his damned money, is a lot more well adjusted and emotionally secure than any kid who's had to live through six months or more of fighting and bullshit before, during, and after a divorce! It was my CHOICE to have a child... I didn't need anyone's permission or approval to do so, and wouldn't have asked for it if I did. Don't assume that children "need" a father. In a lot of cases, I'd say they'd be a whole lot better off without one!
And I don't know what backwards state you live in, but where I come from it takes a helluva lot more than cohabitating with a single mother to become legally and financially responsible for her children! The men I date know me well enough to know that I am not the kind of woman that would do something that sleazy and underhanded anyway, so it wouldn't be a problem for me even if the laws here were like that.
At one point in the past I was contemplating getting married. When the subject came up about him adopting my son, I flatly refused to even discuss it. My reasoning was that if something were to happen and the marriage fell apart, it wouldn't be fair for him to have to pay support for a child that wasn't his! The other reason was that we had lived together for three years and he still wasn't my son's "daddy"; legal adoption wasn't going to change that, so I didn't see the point.
I'll be the first one to agree that the child support laws throughout this country need some serious rehabilitation, but it's my considered opinion that it's the women who abuse those laws that make things more difficult for men. I don't agree with men having to support children that aren't theirs because their wife couldn't keep her pants on, but the men who don't pay up for kids that ARE theirs make me equally angry. I also don't agree with women who deliberately get pregnant and have a child so they can collect support and not have to work. What the hell are these people thinking? Using children as pawns to get money or control in any situation should be a fine punishable by the harshest penalty allowed by our judicial system, and forced sterilization should definitely be part of the package.
End of rant. Sorry to have used up so much board space. You are now returned to your regularly scheduled programming
