I stayed with a friend of a friend in Auckland for a week - He was 50ish and a "Rentboy" - all that leather SandM stuff.
His flat mate was a "peformance artist" and did a very interesting piece with a lightbulb and lots of KY jelly - I dont shock easily but I couldnt speak for 3 hours after the first time I saw it. Yes, I really did say the FIRST time
It was a very interesting week.