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Originally Posted by Donny
This happened starting in August or September of 2005 and went on for almost a year. I started asking that it stop in November 2005 but wanted it to be Belinda's choice because otherwise it was worthless.
It all started because it had always been Belinda fantasy to be with two guys at once. She'd never been into girls, only guys. I thought we could keep it under control so I made it happen.
Dumb. Very, very dumb.
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In a truly healthy, trusting relationship, it should have only been a fantasy fulfilled. Sounds like at that point you were already struggling to hold on to things, and it was a measure of desperation that led you to allowing it. I see this a lot in the "lifestyle" community, but it always boils down to ONE thing. The relationship was never strong enough in the first place, and the "incident" that people blame for making things fly apart was only an excuse, something would have happened down the road either way, because if the couple were already that blind and desperate, the problems where there long before it occured.