Wow, I had so much work that had to be done at the house to get ready for company tonight and got stuck in this thread.
Not cool to bring such personal business to this board and so not cool to drag another mans woman into such a public display.
As a couple in the swinging lifestyle for the last 7 years, you do have to have a solid relationship for it to work. Trying it to "save" something will aways turn bad. You have to have ground rules in place so such jealousy and shit doesn't happen. We've seen so many relationships break up because it wasn't solid to begin with. This one seemed to be no different to handle another person (being a man or woman) being added to the mix.
Just very sorry that it all broke out on GFY and just before christmas. Not the time and certainly not the place for this type of personal matter.
Smurfette