01-22-2003, 05:09 PM
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Originally posted by RATBOY
here it is...
Subject: RE: help
Author: Another wife
Date: 1/22/2003 4:23 pm EST
January, I felt the same way in my marriage. My gut feeling and his constant lying was causing so many emotions. It is so much better when you can make choices based on his choices and truth. I installed spyware, Spector Pro, on our computer in the stealth mode. Even if he erases all tracks, everything will be saved in the spyware. You don't have to check it daily. You can check every keystroke, website, e-mail, all his passwords, on the net, viewing off net, chat, etc. My therapist told me the same and actually TOLD me to install this. That DID give me the needed knowledge to make my own choices. I monitered that for 6 weeks before I told him and of course, he went nuts. It did NOT make any difference to me how he felt. He didn't care about me when he was making his choices. I am not sure that I will stay in this marriage. He chooses to make excuses more than he chooses to enter recovery. I might love him but I think more of myself than spend a lifetime with him and miss out on the loving and intimate relationship of a normal guy
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I love how she is justifying her actions by saying "he did something (I think was) wrong, so it's OK that I did something wrong". What line of bullshit do you suppose she would use to justify it if he had not been doing what she suspected?
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