02-01-2003, 11:42 PM
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Originally posted by DonovanPhillips
Okay...
My advice is probably going to be a little different than what you're used to. I ask you this:
Do you love her?
If the answer is 'yes' then I recommend that you forgive her (which will take a lot of time and work).
Let me also ask you:
If you had a chance and were horny enough, would you cheat on her? If the answer is 'no' you're most likely lying. If the answer is 'yes' then you need to consider a few things. Mainly, IF you cheated on her, would that mean you didn't love her? Not at all.
Just because she fucked your friend does not mean she doesn't love you. She's human. It's human nature to want to sleep around. Most people fight that urge, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
What I'd do (I've been through this) is to let her see how much you're hurting. Don't hide it from her. But try not to let the wounded ego hurt her either, meaning: Don't start yelling at her and being an ass to her in order to protect your ego. You'll be more effective if you just let her see you cry and go through the grieving process. If she loves you she'll feel like shit when she witnesses your grieving first hand. So many people hide it and just display anger. That does no good for anyone. It actually makes it easier on the cheater if you have a "Go Fuck Yourself" attitude. Because if she loves you and can see for herself how much she tore you up she'll truly regret what she did. Let her see you cry like a baby, right in front of her. Don't push her away if she tries to hug you and hold you while you cry. Let her do it.
I'm telling you, bro, if you love her and she loves you, your relationship will be better because of this. Seriously.
Call me... I know how you feel:
888-235-0962 toll free.
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