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As I said Kimmy, no one ever feels obliged to mince words when speaking to or about models. Posters curse out models call them all sluts and dumb whores but if someone says something about a webmaster it's a four page thread? Talent is bad mouthed every hour on the hour around here- but when it's a webmaster it's no longer "cricket"? Give me a break if I'm not exactly shedding a tear for Easton.
Most of the women in this business are too eager trying to differentiate themselves from talent to be the least bit concerned about how they are treated. Speaking up for them in a place like GFY is hardly going to make me popular (not that I even initiated the discussion here). The issues that are important to me are clearly different than the ones that are important to you, but when you fought your battles I don't recall interfering Kimmy or using my name to give credibility to your detractors.
I could just as easily do a morning after analysis of every post you made during those arguments. I show some professional courtesy and yes, even a little gender unity on occasion and let you fight for what you believe in without interfering or trying to piggyback my name onto the discussion.
How many women speaking about this subject have said "I don't want to take sides..." which is about one step down from "Math makes my head hurt". That's what arguments are for- taking sides. Fighting for what you believe to be right to explore different ideas. Arguing is GOOD. Learning without arguing is like dancing without a partner. Having an opinion is not a personality flaw. It's not good for business, but it's not a personality flaw.
Having a absolutely universal industry headset that "If it makes money and is legal it's okay" is not particularly helpful because it makes us look like a single homogenous unit with no internal dialog. Couple amateur sites in the same league as Max Hardcore simply because they both share the same arbitrary label of "porn". Some people agree with this but I believe that ethical standards are one of the primary ways to differentiate between Adult business models.
It's easy to say "everything is okay" when you don't intend to be personally responsible for it. If you work under a pseudonym, no one outside the industry knows what you look like or what you do, or even just live in the suburbs where you don't come in direct contact with large numbers of people- then what's to worry about? The only people who will judge you are other pornographers. Some people go to extremes and don't even let other pornographers judge them- make sure their profile does not contain anything about their business or their sites before going on the attack in a forum.
I have my face plastered on the front page of the highest traffic Asian porn model paysite on the net. When I ride the subway, go to school, go shopping- I routinely meet people who know exactly who I am and what I do. I've now done several interviews for mainstream publications where I have had to put what my company does and how it does it an a context that would be palatable to a mainstream reader. I don't give myself the luxury of hiding behind a computer saying "anything goes" knowing that I will seldom if ever be directly confronted with a person who questions the way I make my money.
Totally anonymity is a warm blanket but it doesn't exactly inspire the highest ethical standards. Those who cling to it as a buffer against culpability shouldn't be so eager to bash those of us who put our face on our business and routinely have to answer for it in the real world.
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