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Originally Posted by webmasterchecks
i thought about it the other day, im getting wise in my old age
choose your battles carefully, take the higher ground and back off unless you can and want to annihilate them
nothing is for certain, there maybe a 99.999% chance X will happen, but its normally never for certain. people that take with absolute terms, you have to take that into account
people like people that like them. smile, treat people with respect, be nice, helpful etc. dont do anything to anybody that you cant sit in a cafe with them and explain why you did that. it will come back to you 10 times over in other ways. and you can sleep with yourself at night
85% of people out there are unexceptional, but you still have to deal with them. And when you are looking for friends, good employees, a girlfriend, try to find them in the 15%. you learn from the people around you.
Girls may look good but thats still only 15-20% of whats needed, besides intelligence, character, sense of humor, virtue, sexual, etc. and too many times they are inflated up in our heads based on the nice package. thats one of the reasons girls can be dangerous
People get judged based on their actions/appearance, etc. and you lose a lot of credibility for the first few times you fuck up in something or say stupid stuff. And that is normally not an isolated event, but reveals a character flaw that may be difficult to correct
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this is all so interesting. may be because i know you personally and i see that you treat people with respect primarily when you are motivated and there is a reward in it for you.
you treat everyone according to what it is you want or have to gain from them. you are a nice guy, because being good with people helps you further your career. not that there is anything wrong with that. its just slippery. i think you are genuinely a good guy you just have some things to work out... but don't we all.
i think you can learn a lot from anyone you meet. everyone has something to offer. and we are human, everyone fucks ups but it doesn't mean there character is permnantly flawed. it helps to made aware and we have the ability to change and evolve. that is what makes us unique.