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Originally Posted by webmasterchecks
i thought about it the other day, im getting wise in my old age
choose your battles carefully, take the higher ground and back off unless you can and want to annihilate them
nothing is for certain, there maybe a 99.999% chance X will happen, but its normally never for certain. people that take with absolute terms, you have to take that into account
people like people that like them. smile, treat people with respect, be nice, helpful etc. dont do anything to anybody that you cant sit in a cafe with them and explain why you did that. it will come back to you 10 times over in other ways. and you can sleep with yourself at night
85% of people out there are unexceptional, but you still have to deal with them. And when you are looking for friends, good employees, a girlfriend, try to find them in the 15%. you learn from the people around you.
Girls may look good but thats still only 15-20% of whats needed, besides intelligence, character, sense of humor, virtue, sexual, etc. and too many times they are inflated up in our heads based on the nice package. thats one of the reasons girls can be dangerous
People get judged based on their actions/appearance, etc. and you lose a lot of credibility for the first few times you fuck up in something or say stupid stuff. And that is normally not an isolated event, but reveals a character flaw that may be difficult to correct
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Very good points and agree!
On the last para - people related. Agree appearances and whatever "postion" they hold can be deceptive - appearances mean nothing. You can have what appears to be a total dumbos, but, they are not. Same with the flipside - can have the most highly qualified people, but they can be totally useless. The perception may be real or not - the only way I can judge that is over a timespan - and "listening hard" and between the lines as to what is said.
On biz, only my
, but this is not a sprint. Establishing relationships with people over a number of years is relevant. Apart from the textbook "how to run a biz" stuff - you need to plot a path ahead for a business and worth asking, where will that business be in eg ten years? If it is not likely to be worth the investment in time over than period (other than just earning money) - it may be time for a re-think. Also don't regard the sporadic short-term business "successes" as being too relevant (tho can be very nice) - all businesses ride a wave and have periods of being under water - so, back to the sprint/marathon terminology - business is a marathon and it's a matter of sustained effort in both the good and bad times and staying focussed.
On battles
- rarely have them and sure would not be over trivial stuff - it's not worth the effort. Would also not describe them as battles but more, (tho this depends on the nature of the problem), a matter of a sustained effort in slowly gathering solid "intelligence" on every aspect of the issue - there is usually no hurry to do this. Some of that intelligence may be good or bad for you, but as long as it is undeniable fact, it's a basis to monitor a path ahead. Personal gripes and agendas are not helpful in this process - better to keep it clean-cut, not slanted towards "personal revenge", but more based on elements which can be used in front of a judge (especially if that is a possible outcome). Working with an appropriated experienced lawyer during this time would be normal - he will be as good as the breifing you provide. This can be a hell of a lot of work and take years - so really depends on the issue at stake and whether costs or recovery of perhaps an asset, does still exist. (Only had two "battles" ever - and still spinning the fishing line out on the second for about two years now - and don't expect a resolution for maybe 6-8 years yet, but will bring justice to a seriously unjust issue involving very serious money.)
If you think it is only 85% of people who are "unexceptional" - that's being very enthusiastic about the human species
Everyone is different and have their own interests/problems/ambitions/lifestyle etc - they may be "unexceptional" to us, but not to others. Tho, understand what you are saying - it's hard to find people who "blend" and have some qualities/experience to bring to the table.