I think you should all count your lucky stars that someone gives you anything at all, whether you like it or hate it.
I remember a couple of years when I was around 15 and 16, my mom and stepdad took off to Florida for a couple of months around Christmas. They left me home alone, knowing I was perfectly responsible to take care of the house. At Christmas I would put up the tree even though it was just for me...and on Christmas Day I would open the freezer and grab a furkey TV dinner and eat it. My mother never phoned either year to wish me a Merry Christmas, nor did she leave or send a gift. When she went away for a couple months she would generally leave me with $20 and a freezer full of TV dinners and that was it. No money for milk or fruit or groceries. They were VERY wealthy.
I will never forget those days, and at that time, I would have loved it if an aunt gave me some stupid tube socks or if I got an ugly coo coo clock, at least I would have known there was someone out there thinking of me.
Christmas is a HUGE deal at my house now. That tree goes up, the house is decorated inside and out and I spoil my kids completely rotten. They will NEVER EVER feel know what it is like to feel all alone at Christmas.
When my daughter went to a remote resort to work all the kids there would be alone for Christmas, and there was no way I would make my daughter feel alone. So my other daughter and I baked for 3 days and sent several huge boxes of food, christmas cookies and gifts up to her. She was also sent a Christmas tree, decorations and everything else.
Christmas Eve and Day was open house at her room at the dorm. She made it an open invitation to all staff. I sent up a good number of general gifts (male and female) to my daughter so that if anyone mentioned they never got anything from home my daughter gave them one of the general gifts. They may not have been the best gift they ever got, but I made sure that every kid away from home at that resort, felt the spirit of Christmas and didn't go without a gift.
My kids are spoiled at Christmas, but I make sure they know that giving is just as much a part of christmas as getting.
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