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I remember when I was 17 / 18 / 19 I desperately wanted to have a relationship, then I just somehow stopped to care about it.
I refused to think about these things too much as it's a waste of time.
Yes, of course there is a pressure in the society - trying to persuade you that beeing single is something weird, that you're missing something, you are also easier to manipulate if you are in a couple, it's easier to cash in for them since you are getting conform, once you have kids you are going to be easy to manipulate. All the media are showcasing those shiny happy couples...
Seen too many non functioning relationships where people are with each other only because they have small kids or are too old and too boring to date anyone else - the result is a suffer for both of them.
Seen so many cases where two completely different worlds collided - two different families, two different mindscapes, different backgrounds and the result is - suffer and nervous breakdowns, money issues, scamming..
I actually don't think it's that easy to have a relationship these days, you're no more breeding sheeps and goats, women no more cook and go to the town once a week and you no more fuck in missionary with the light off.
You are in fact meeting many attractive people every day and are able to live on your own very comfortably, moreover you can always find someone for a couple of wild intimate moments to help you kill the hunger for a relationship.
Many of my mates are single, In fact I might be a really tough and complicated cynical jerk and I don't think it's entirely this bad. I learned to accept that as well as the fact there doesn't have to be a partner that you could really LIVE with out there.
That doesn't mean you didn't made your choices, there is a trade off to everything but at the end you are what you are - you have the choice.
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