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Originally Posted by NikKay
I think abortion should always be the woman's right, but that if she decides to keep the baby and wants to put it up for adoption, the father should have the first option to take the baby. In this case, I think the woman should be on the hook for child support totally.
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In this case he's known to be the undisputed father by all parties and all lawyers. The mother simply didnt like him and didnt want him to be able to be the father, and her plan was to disallow him the priviledge by putting their baby up for adoption. And it wasn't even an open adoption, her parents found some friends of theirs who took the baby privately.
There is a list that men should be aware of if they never want to be in that horrifying position. It retains your legal rights as the father. Men are disadvantaged in that they dont get pregnant, and dont "show". Even though without him, it's just another monthly cycle like any other to the woman. Thats the womans blessing and burden.. so be it. But in order for the father to retain his legal rights, an ultrasound doesnt cut it, he needs his name on a piece of paper at city hall, or it's all over legally.
I dont disagree with you in that it would be *nice* if the mother who didnt want the baby would give the father the option to take the baby. But it's all sort of after the fact. If he is the legal and biological father, he actually does have rights.. IF he retains them on paper the instant he knows of the pregnancy.