"not interested in traffic companies"
Are you not interested in "feeder" style traffic, or not interested in working with a third party?
JuicyAds sells for individual publishers, to sell their banners/ad spots, and we've got a bunch of sites over 100k daily that would match what you're looking for.
Contacted to clarify.
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Jay | JuicyAds Founder
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