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Originally Posted by Missy
This is a serious question. Somebody very close to me needs treatment and I've always read and heard that you can't make somebody get help - they have to be ready to do it for themselves.
So what does it take to make somebody realize it's time?
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i'm not an addiction specialist but i imagine that getting help in that respect is no different than making any other significant change in life for the long term... whether its quitting smoking or losing 50 pounds or whatever. you have to want it, you have to have some very strong reasons that keep you focused every single day. you're not going to give someone that reason.
i doubt the idea of acting like an ass, losing a few friends and doing shit you have to apologize for are not going to be strong enough motivating factors for someone to really want to sit down and fight and beat some sort of chemical dependence for the long term.
you want to "make someone realize" its time. i doubt that's going to happen. if you have to talk someone into it, then they don't want it and i doubt they are going to be successful.
you can't forget that you're not dealing with a rational person and you're not going to reason with them. you can't force rational thinking and rational behavior and rational decisions from the outside.
the vast majority of people who get treatment for addiction are unsuccessful. why? because others are talking them into something that they themselves are not fully convinced it's true that they need help or that they're not in control or can't control it.