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I don't really have much to offer aside from what's already been said... especially reguarding her needing to hit rock bottom before she will REALLY get it through her head. That said, you CAN help her hit rock bottom... how? By making her feel like an absolute piece of shit basically. All while confirming your love for her. Don't be afraid to point out every little fucked up thing she is doing or has done. She needs to feel guilty for her drug abuse. Did she have dreams of being a nurse/teacher/astronaut? Remind her of those dreams, but let her know they are still achievable... all is not lost. Ask her if she loves her kids, because of course she does, let her know that her drug abuse could lead to them getting taken. Potentially permanently. Throw the absolute shittiest scenarios into her head that you can think of, the more realistic the better, but do it tactfully and with love. Threaten her with serious, life changing shit and follow through with it at least every once in a while. Give her chances but don't make empty threats.
Aside from that, she needs to dis-associate herself with anyone involved in that culture. Flat out. That means not speaking with people she probably considers her best friends. No small talk, no barbeques, etc. She always has an excellent excuse - "I'm trying to get clean".. even most drug users understand that. And maybe that'll be hard for her but for me it wasn't ( mostly because I was 'ready'/had had enough )... many of the people involved in the drug culture are lying, cheating, scamming pieces of shit who will do anything for more drugs. They're not REAL friends.. not even close, at least not when they're using. Remind her of this every chance you get, because at least for me.. that was key. Getting away from the culture/lifestyle. She needs to find a new, healthier 'normal'. It needs to become absolutely routine. Once she's been clean for a while help her to despise the lifestyle she used to live. Remind her why she got out. Refer to it with absolute disgust.
Anyway.. I'm done rambling but I hope she gets out. HTH
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