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Originally Posted by sltr
well, to tell you truth, my answer to that is a question to you. who are you trying to save here? your sister or the kids? because at this point, after reading each your posts a few times, i'm not sure what your goal is here. it sounds to me like you mostly want to get the kids in a safe environment more than getting your sister clean. although you haven't really stated anything showing that their safety is truly in jeopardy- sure letting them run around unsupervised and unfed is wrong but not necc. unsafe, depends on many things.
so i guess my point is this, if you want your sister to deal with her addiction you have to do nothing, even your family has turned away from her (as you mentioned).
if you want to *save* the kids, then fuck her and her addiction and get the kids, i don't know the best way for you to do that, i'm more versed at getting drunks and druggies help.
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It's a good question. The initial goal was to "save" my sister and her husband - before things get to the point where something happens to the kids that will be irreversible. So I guess the answer is... both. From everything I have been reading here and learning on my own though, the first goal is pretty much pointless, so I believe that now the goal has shifted more toward the second part - which is just making sure that they aren't going to take their kids down this path with them.
None of us want to wait to find out if their rock bottom will involve the kids somehow. That may not happen, but it's a very real possibility and we don't want to have to find out the hard way. I have only given a couple of the examples I know of that make me feel like the kids could be in jeopardy, but it only takes one time for their 5-year-old to find the drugs that one of their friends have left laying around... and none of us would ever forgive ourselves. We also don't want to wait until the state steps in to remove the kids and place them in the foster care system.
So I guess the real answer is that the ideal goal is to save both, but if nothing can be done to help my sister and her husband, our main focus is just making sure that my nephews are in a safe environment while the parents run their course.
BTW, would you mind if I hit you up on ICQ to chat some time?