Aaliyah, I'd go with what your instincts tell you. I follow mine and then tweak it with a lot of analytical thought. You should do the same. You're a softcore site, and in my opinion that is one of the hardest things to make successful. I wouldn't have a clue how to give you advice on that one. So best to do what your instincts tell you. That will probably lead you to the right path.
Interacting with your members as PK said and giving them some input is a pretty good idea. But stay in control of your audience. When I'm working in front of a crowd as a front man...I always include the audience (or at least create the ILLUSION that they are involved) but I never let them dictate the ambiance of the evening.
That's my job as an entertainer. To set the mood and create the feel for the audience.
That's how I approach adult entertainment on the internet as well. Just good old tried and true techniques of entertainment that worked 5,000 years ago, 100 years ago, today, and will work tomorrow.
So YOU decide how you want to entertain them. And you decide the direction it goes. And if part of that is presenting a site that features you and girls who are of the same body type and age...then focus on that like an arrow. Be the best that you can in that genre.
