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Originally Posted by snowywhite
A relationship without a good argument/fight once in a while isn't a good relationship.
Because when you don't argue, you don't care...  |
This sort of attitude is fucked up. Not everyone craves drama or thinks that a relationship has to be like a soap opera come to life to be fulfilling.
I try and surround myself with people who are a lot more laid back and willing to talk about shit rationally if it bothers them... thus why my boyfriend and I have been together years and have fought only a handful of times... or why my best friend and I were able to live together for so long and never fight or damage the friendship at all... there's no point to escalating shit to big, dramatic blowouts when you can just be up front with people when they piss you off or do something that makes you uncomfortable.
I learned this the hard way, after buying into that "you fight because you care" shit for too long... I think that if you care deeply about a relationship, you'd want to fix things in a calm, effective manner, not get all crazy and scream at each other.