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Originally Posted by xxweekxx
sounds like me last yr.. one part of me says omg this is a great girl.. dont leave her.. BUT I ask, is it enough to stay with a girl just cause she loves you and shows you affection, etc..?? I always thought you have to be in love with her too..
If you had a chance, would you cheat on this girl?
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Interesting question...
I haven't yet, mainly because I haven't looked for it, but if the opportunity arises, I probably would, but I'd definitely keep it extremely discreet.
Don't get me wrong, I care for her and don't want to hurt her, but I'm just not in love and can't imagine staying with her for the rest of my life. I feel like I have an obligation to help her out (that stupid sense of responsibility again) and so will stick around until she's finished her degree and can stand on her own two feet, but then I'll have to send her on her way...
The worst part is this is my second marriage, strike two, and I highly doubt there will a third. I'm going to take the Professor's (Tom Leykis) teachings to heart and stay single. There's really no benefit for a guy to be married. It's way easier to get out of a relationship when there's no contract involved.
Whereas my current marriage is based on common likes and dislikes, and is more of a cerebral connection, the first marriage was based on pure animalistic sexual attraction and that shit faded quickly and she became a total bitch to live with. I had no choice but to get rid of her, we would have ended up killing each other.
For the car lovers out there, the best analogy I can make is that my first wife was like a super hot sports car that ran like shit and constantly broke down, and the second wife is like a practical family sedan that has all the features you could ever want and will run forever.
I went from one extreme to the other and haven't found that sweet spot between the two that works for me...
All I can do is thank the heavens that there haven't been any kids from either marriage.