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Originally Posted by Killswitch
Alright, I reread this thread and I want to apologize to everyone for what I said, including you Pleasurepays. I understand what you all mean, but I just didn't want to admit it... Besides the stupid shit he does, and stealing, I see myself in him like I mentioned, and I know he can be a good kid, because I've seen him do very well...
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Wow.. i have to say i am really impressed. Thats very good news. We are all fucked up. All of us. The problems arise when someone is not willing to admit it to themselves. It took me a very long time as a young adult to admit my own issues to myself, admit that i needed help and come to terms with the fact that i have a family which is basically a collection of the worst and most toxic personalities imaginable that need to be kept at arms length at all times that did some serious emotional damage. Everyone is better off when someone stops and starts asking "why is this happening", "why does this cycle keep repeating", "why is this person continually doing XYZ", "why do i get extremely angry about...." and so on. That's the only way to find useful answers and improve the situation and become a better person.
When kids are acting out, they are asking for help. The best decision you will make in your relationship with him is to start asking "why he is stealing" rather than "how do i punish him" and that process will lead to both of you being happier and having a stronger relationship.
Thats very good news man!!
