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Originally Posted by Pleasurepays
Wow.. i have to say i am really impressed. Thats very good news. We are all fucked up. All of us. The problems arise when someone is not willing to admit it to themselves. It took me a very long time as a young adult to admit my own issues to myself, admit that i needed help and come to terms with the fact that i have a family which is basically a collection of the worst and most toxic personalities imaginable that need to be kept at arms length at all times that did some serious emotional damage. Everyone is better off when someone stops and starts asking "why is this happening", "why does this cycle keep repeating", "why is this person continually doing XYZ", "why do i get extremely angry about...." and so on. That's the only way to find useful answers and improve the situation and become a better person.
When kids are acting out, they are asking for help. The best decision you will make in your relationship with him is to start asking "why he is stealing" rather than "how do i punish him" and that process will lead to both of you being happier and having a stronger relationship.
Thats very good news man!!  |
See that's why I wanna scare him instead of telling him to goto a therapist, my parents didn't make me go to a therapist. My dad stuck his boot up my ass, and I listened to him, granted not my mother.. haha.. but what really made me change was I always fought in school and we moved and I thought "Hey, I have another chance, and this time I don't want to be known as the kid who fights all the time", so I changed... Seriously, my teacher told my mother that she called my old school after a month of me being there and asked if they sent the wrong transcripts because they were expecting this uncooperative child who they would have a hard time with, but instead got a kid who was always helpful and good.
So I know he can change without needing medication, or some therapist, he just needs the right motivation.