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SleazyDream · 04-20-2009, 01:38 AM

ok

at what point to you diagnose yourself with a mental obsession problem?

ok, say you have something with someone, lets call it a spark.... goes a little somewhere but it ends. No illusions here about that. No blaim, yeah regrets but a firm grasp on reality that it is over for years now.

you have no contact with the person for many years and you know you've moved on with your life. Dated new people, gone though 2 relationships (long term ones) and currently in one...

yet this person comes into your head EVERY SINGLE DAY. yep - YEARS NOW and every single day I think about her. I can't shake it. knew for the first first months it was just normal....but it's YEARS now and not a single day goes by when I don't think about her.

I ask myself questions, like am I crazy, obsessed. Maybe, I don't know. No other girl has had this effect on me.

Do I stalk her, no. I do bump into some info about her here and there but it's rare and I TRY and ignore it but my heart THUMPS whenever I hear anything. I can't controll it. I get a psychological reaction when I get new info about her. My heart has alwasy thumped when in her presence.

it's not like I cut out pictures or save images or anything... just every single day for years now I keep trying to understand how this woman made my heart thump every single time I spoke to her, was around her or heard anything about her. No one ever did that to me before. I have no answers to myself.

I only want the best for her, and I know she went a different path and I honestly feel her happiness is more important than mine so I can't go after this again. No regrets, I did go for it, it didn't work out but I did NOT chicken out and I have no regrets about not taking my chance.

Yet every day I long for that heart thump and a chance to make her happy so I can only pray that she is happy. It's not my place to do anything more than that now.

I know, it's YEARS, I'm fucking wacked. It's obsessive and it feels like I SHOULD be able to let it go.

This is what's sooo weird too, she's wasn't perfect. Yet no matter what happened it didn't change that feeling.

Now I'm come to accept it'll be there in my head. Tried everything I could to shake it, no good. So i've accepted it. And I move on. and that was YEARS ago too..

so here I am, YEARS later..... and she's still there in my head. I judge everyone I've ever dated against her and no other women measures up to how she made me feel.

would I do it again. YES.

now back to my question, looking at all that. I think I may have an obsession problem. Yes I am obsessive, but it's always faded in a few months... can't shake this one so somehow I keep thinking it's something more than just an obsession that keeps popping into my head....

help

04-20-2009, 01:38 AM
SleazyDream I'm here for SPORT Industry Role: Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phone # (401) 285-0696 Posts: 41,470	When does feelings about someone become obsessive? ok at what point to you diagnose yourself with a mental obsession problem? ok, say you have something with someone, lets call it a spark.... goes a little somewhere but it ends. No illusions here about that. No blaim, yeah regrets but a firm grasp on reality that it is over for years now. you have no contact with the person for many years and you know you've moved on with your life. Dated new people, gone though 2 relationships (long term ones) and currently in one... yet this person comes into your head EVERY SINGLE DAY. yep - YEARS NOW and every single day I think about her. I can't shake it. knew for the first first months it was just normal....but it's YEARS now and not a single day goes by when I don't think about her. I ask myself questions, like am I crazy, obsessed. Maybe, I don't know. No other girl has had this effect on me. Do I stalk her, no. I do bump into some info about her here and there but it's rare and I TRY and ignore it but my heart THUMPS whenever I hear anything. I can't controll it. I get a psychological reaction when I get new info about her. My heart has alwasy thumped when in her presence. it's not like I cut out pictures or save images or anything... just every single day for years now I keep trying to understand how this woman made my heart thump every single time I spoke to her, was around her or heard anything about her. No one ever did that to me before. I have no answers to myself. I only want the best for her, and I know she went a different path and I honestly feel her happiness is more important than mine so I can't go after this again. No regrets, I did go for it, it didn't work out but I did NOT chicken out and I have no regrets about not taking my chance. Yet every day I long for that heart thump and a chance to make her happy so I can only pray that she is happy. It's not my place to do anything more than that now. I know, it's YEARS, I'm fucking wacked. It's obsessive and it feels like I SHOULD be able to let it go. This is what's sooo weird too, she's wasn't perfect. Yet no matter what happened it didn't change that feeling. Now I'm come to accept it'll be there in my head. Tried everything I could to shake it, no good. So i've accepted it. And I move on. and that was YEARS ago too.. so here I am, YEARS later..... and she's still there in my head. I judge everyone I've ever dated against her and no other women measures up to how she made me feel. would I do it again. YES. now back to my question, looking at all that. I think I may have an obsession problem. Yes I am obsessive, but it's always faded in a few months... can't shake this one so somehow I keep thinking it's something more than just an obsession that keeps popping into my head.... help __________________ This dog, is dog, a dog, good dog, way dog, to dog, keep dog, an dog, idiot dog, busy dog, for dog, 20 dog, seconds dog! Now read without the word dog.