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In your circle, that is...
Perhaps they weren't swingers in the true sense of the word.
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Some were, some weren't. Several still are.
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Point taken, but subconsciously there has to be some level of acceptance and awareness of the effects involving that which you promote.
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I accept that other people have an interest in it, and I'm aware that I have no problem giving them what they want, within the letter of the law of course.
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Which is fine, but nonetheless is a very puritanical point of view.
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Since when is a simple monogamous relationship based on mutual trust considered puritanical?
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As said previously, the persons of which you speak may have partaken in the swinger experience, but perhaps were not truly committed to each other.
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Several were more than 10 years in together. Some of the partners or spouses are now out, while a few others stayed in that lifestyle.
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There are many persons who attempt to live the lifestyle, but do so without comprehending exactly what it is they are participating in. Oftentimes one partner may simply go along for the ride out of obligation, or one of the parties comes to a realization that the connection they thought that they were a part of was not fully intact. Also bear in mind that relationships in these times can break down for any number of reasons, especially as a vast majority of persons walking this planet are not self-aware. They have a hard enough time coping with one partner, much less multiple ones.
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Which supports my point exactly. Your insinuation that being open with one's relationship is the better or rather more enlightened and less hypocritical way to be, yet it's a way that can often be just as chock full of pitfalls, deceits and disappointments as for those who prefer monogamy.
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So in truth I'm not painting a perfect permissive picture, because anyone who is worth their salt knows that any relationship with another person involves a completely different set of dimensions to process. It isn't easy, but when persons do find someone that they can share anything regarding their existence with, that is something to be cherished and respected. That is what many people deep down wish that they had but never get a chance to experience.
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In other words one way isn't better than the other. Thank you.
I would say generally most people just wish they could find someone they can trust as well as love. Aside from personal fantasies the open "swinger" way appeals to the vast minority only.