nico-t

i need some input on this. Made a thread on another board a few days ago, these are the cliffnotes til now:
- last week i went out & was extremely smashed on alcohol, brought a girl home and when i tried to fuck her i couldnt get it up, which i hadnt experienced before.
- the day after that i thought about it too much. That night I went out again, hooked up with the same chick again and did a car session.. It looked promising until some interruptions (cop went by, chick brought up condoms), I started thinking again, result was that this was unsuccesful too.
- Next day: naturally i was really down this day and it was becoming an obsession.. chick wanted to meet up again, we did but i really wasnt in the mood so dropped her off.
- Monday: psychologically the ultimate low, thought about it so much that it really fucked me up in my head.
- Yesterday: she was horny again, so i thought 'just do it' otherwise id be walking around with this too much. It was a sex date, nothing else so i started thinking about it again. It was an afternoon session at my place so no alcohol this time, but i definately wasnt ready, i put too much pressure on myself (she noticed this too).. we were busy for a pretty long time ended in the shower, and as i was feeling more relaxed it started to work a bit again but not entirely. So to look positively at this it was a half-success.
My mind is a roller coaster now with ups and downs. After the last session i was surprisingly cool about it, even laughing about it because its just stupid your brain can affect you so much, and i didnt mind so much anymore, i thought hey i know the shit works i just gotta get over it.

What should i do... maybe try it first again with another chick, maybe even order an escort or something? Because i dont want the next time to fail again with the same chick, thats also fucked up for her... How do i get this out of my mind? any techniques?
(btw some might say im crazy im sharing all this here but i don't care, i can use all the pointers i can get)