Originally Posted by Pleasurepays

you notice how in everything you say, you paint yourself as the saint, the innocent victim and do it as you lash out at gonzo and her?

the recurring theme is that you are a victim.

guess what?

you have 3 children that are victims of YOU and your behavior and your decisions.

you have a wife that is a victim of YOU and your behavior and your decisions.

you are leaving a trail of victims in your life.

you're acting like a lunatic. its entertaining for sure. but it doesn't change the fact that you are sick. you had no reason to bring out her personal issues on a forum... you did it to show you are a victim, how you've been a victim and you did it out of spite and to make others hurt in the same way you believe they've made you hurt.

if i had to guess... you most likely sought out someone that was in horrible shape on every level because it helped you to validate your own narcissistic behaviors and sense of self. your first wife is quite probably an intelligent person that didn't want to put up with your shit and the second a dirty, homeless looking junkie came your way with her legs open, which you've only described as being seriously disturbed, mentally ill, a drug addict and with frightening hygiene problems... you bailed to save your ego instead of your family

when it goes bad in the end.. you can only play the victim and blame others... because the last person you seem to be capable of blaming is yourself. you kinda try to in an immature, backhanded way while throwing insults at others.. but that's not exactly what i'm talking about.

Disordered narcissism

Lack of empathy is a hallmark of narcissistic disorders, and sufferers find it extremely difficult to understand others' (and their own) emotional states and impact. This makes maintaining close or intimate relationships significantly harder. They may find it difficult to perceive or admit this, or may interpret it as a virtue.

It is also worth noting that the individual expressions of grandiosity or arrogance vary with the person's value system. A person will generally attempt to display superiority as he or she defines it.

* Overreacts to criticism, becoming angry or humiliated
* Uses others to reach goals
* Exaggerates own importance
* Entertains unrealistic fantasies about achievements, power, beauty, intelligence or romance
* Has unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
* Seeks constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
* Is easily jealous
* Has a sense of extreme entitlement
* Is exploitative of others
* Lacks empathy
* Displays arrogant, haughty and proud behavior.
* Uses denial mechanism to downplay own inadequacies or failings
* Uses rationalization mechanism to justify self-centered behavior