I'm sorry to hear about your wife's condition.
Both my mother and her mother (my grandmother) died in their 40's from Lupus. It's a very tragic disease.
There was encouraging news just in the past few days about a lupus treatment that is having some promising results.
Here are a few links:
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/704385
http://www.reuters.com/article/ameri...47476320090611
If you go to Google and click on News at the top of the page, and then do a search on Lupus, there are dozens of articles about it.
I know you said that your wife is in remission for Lupus, but I thought it might be helpful to know anyway.
Good luck to you and your wife, and I send my best wishes to her.
ADG