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Originally Posted by DonovanTrent
Personally, I think it's a really bad concept that causes people to pass by or even leave people who otherwise would make great long-term partners. Luckily, I'm not speaking from experience, it just seems like something that would make people miss out on a lot of good time.
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I don't know, alot of people I know seem to settle with people who don't really make them happy.
I was with this one guy for about 5 years. He was all about walking down the aisle and as much as my friends and fam were all for it I just wasn't feeling it. I know it sounds cliche, but in the end even though I loved him I wasn't
IN love with him anymore.
When I broke up with him I caught alot of shit. I mean, yeah he loved me, never mistreated or cheated on me, we hardly ever fought, but there's just more to it than that.
Alot of my friends, especially my girl friends, couldn't believe I chose to walk away. "Oh my god! He's so perfect! He wanted to marry you! What are you, nuts?!?" They just couldn't get it.
Even though I took alot of shit for it I honestly think it was one of the best moves I ever could have made. Now I'm with someone who for me is the total package. He's not perfect, but neither am I, and who is? There's just this synergy that's there that has always been missing in my other relationships. We kick ass for the lord.
I think society puts too much pressure on people to marry and live happily ever after. If anything I kinda feel it's the opposite, people don't walk away from good potential long term relationships as much as they seem to settle with bad ones because they're afraid of being alone. Maybe my perception is skewed by my own personal experience, but that's the way I see it.
