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Originally Posted by bossku69
I lent some family (not technically, but related through my gf) money a few weeks ago. It was only a temporary loan for about a week, but now three have passed by and now I feel like an asshole for asking for it back.
on top of that, another "family" member asked me to let him borrow money because he is to lazy to get a job. i said no and i have a really good feeling i am getting talked badly about for not doing so.
thinking about it now, ive lent several friends money or bought them something in the past few years and never got paid back, even after I have asked. Its hard enough having to ask for the money back once, let alone multiple times. I had two close friends that I lent them several thousands of dollars and ruined our friendship badly after threatening to sue them for it back.
honestly, i dont understand it. ive never liked borrowing money from someone unless I really needed it. and when I have, ive always made a mental note to take what I owe and put that aside so I dont count it in as my own money.
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Didn't you just lose 25K on a scam and you said that was your savings?
If so wtf is your problem??? You have the perfect excuse not to loan people money... Tell them how you were scammed out of your savings and you don't have any money left over. Poor mouth. Laugh and ask them for a loan.
When it comes to family and friends it should never be "I dont want to loan you money" but that you would you just don't have any to loan.
Also what works is if they are asking for say $500 give them $50 and tell them thats all you have. If they bitch they look ungratefull. If they don't pay you back, in most cases they wont ask for more because they know they still owe you. So it cost you $50 to look like the good guy and not be bothered from them anymore. Instead of being out $500, not getting it back and you looking like the asshole for hounding them for repayment.