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Originally Posted by dyna mo
in my experience, a genuine apology can be delivered via any medium and the request was made in public via this medium.
the components of an apology that make it sincere are it has to be direct, the way the apology is issued, i.e. no *IF i did something, i apologize* but a * i did this and i apologize for it*
and the other crucial part is an attempt to make whole.
it appears to me the op did that.
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1. I suppose it depends on your age. If you are 27 and younger then I suppose non-personal social media (to include email, messengers, phone text, chat, forums, networking sites, etc.) is to ingrained in you to make or use confrontational issues private, personal, and 1 on 1(live via face to face or at the least by phone NOT text). I am not saying these things do not have their place. But when it comes to anything bearing emotion (apologizing, breaking up, working out differences or trying to make compromises, hurting someone, or anything that involves a close personal relationship) these forms of media do nothing but cushion the user from having to deal with an uncomfortable situation and depersonalizes the natural process of human interaction.
2. As to regards to the other parties thread -
http://www.gfy.com/fucking-around-and-business-discussion/938731-lost-15k-invesment.html
He posts with thread title:
What if someone lost 15k of your invesment and...
Not even apologies!!
Would you be pissed???
I skimmed the thread and saw no where that he demanded an apology in public or on this site. He asked others opinions without naming names.
I am not taking sides but I lean more towards Scott. We have met a few times and he is a good guy. The other one I do not know. I just think that something bad that happened between longtime friends was aired where it shouldn't have been. I am willing to bet it has caused more damage, generated more hurt feelings than having talked face to face would have done. Another side effect of these depersonalized forms of social media sometimes allows people to be more hateful and callous than they normally would be. Even if one side was not willing to listen then the other person tried, doing the right thing while not throwing dirty laundry in the laps of people with whom it does not concern.
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