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Originally Posted by cherrylula
that is child abuse plain and simple.
can you really blame abused children for the behaviors they pick up after years of torment and abuse like this though?
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Nope not at all, as an abused child myself.... no I cannot. And I don't blame her one little bit. My family did all we could to show her that is the opposite of what a FAMILY is supposed to be. She is one of these kids that, on the outside, everyone thought this was the perfect little family, she was dressed to the hilt growing up, got all the fancy cars and blah blah blah.... but on the inside, that kid is a complete mess. I could go on and on and on on just this kid.... she was not one time ever PHYSICALLY abused and some mental and lots of emotional.... that was the abuse I suffered..... but I think when it comes down to it, I think my abuse is minimum (and it was bad) next to hers. A few weeks ago, she was called home to her Dad, she got there and he took her car..... HER car, and changed the tires on HIS car with hers.. leaving her, his own child with tires with the metal showing thru on 3 of them, just so HIS tires were good. She had to sign a disclaimer to go onto his race track so she wouldn't sue him if she got hurt and if she didn't, she wasn't allowed on that track.
All in all, she is a good kid, very sweet and caring, she is just so twisted as to what is right and wrong.. but if you can get her off the drugs and away from them long enough, she sees what her childhood is, she just doesn't have the support base like i had to get her out of it. She broke up with my son because he tried to help her and be her support base, but Dad said to break up with him, he's a bad influence, so she did. And we cannot blame her for anything at all.. it isn't her fault her head is twisted.
Mental capacity is key, in my opinion.