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Originally Posted by Pleasurepays
addiction and/or addictive behaviors are a symptom of other emotional/psychological issues and have little to nothing to do with the actual substance/thing that's being abused. you don't make a choice to be raped by a parent and struggle with the emotional consequences. you don't make a choice to watch your child die. you don't make a choice to experience the trauma which, for many will lead to addiction... and you certainly will usually have little to no awareness of the fact that you actually have a substance abuse problem until very late in the game.
kinda curious why its so personal to you. sounds like something has happened a little close to home that you're having trouble dealing with yourself. its left you angry with a lot of unresolved feelings and emotions on the matter. a lot of blame. it would be a good guess that your father was an alcoholic that was never there for you
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Actually yes. In my first major in college, my practicum was to counsel drug and alcohol addicts and one day, this crack addict came and told me his background about how he would be so fucked up on crack that he would "accidentally" rape his daughter who was 11 that he "confused" to be his wife and then said he doesn't feel society should blame him but his sickness. That's when I knew Psychology was not for me.
There are a lot of people in this world who have suffered abuse or led a difficult life. They all did not turn to drugs or alcohol, or even porn if you believe the media sensationalism. You are making the argument that behavior is dependent on environment and frankly, that's a cop out addicts use. Its the same song and dance when people say girls in porn must have been molested when they were younger.
My 3rd year in college, I started dating a guy who drank all the time and blamed his behavior on his drinking. One night he was drunk and tried to rape me so I grabbed his balls and squeezed as hard as I could until one of them popped and I could get away. I filed attempted rape charges against him and he sat there in the court room and told the judge "I'm a really great guy and everyone loves me but I should not be punished for what happens when I am drunk." Judge ripped him apart and gave him 2 years.
Recreational use is fine provided people can handle it and maintain control. People that become addicts can do neither.