Originally Posted by Pleasurepays

no... i was simply stating that its not "a choice" if you have no conscious awareness of the choice you are making. everyone believes they are in full control until they bottom out. simple as that.




see... i was right. your father was an alcoholic... hence, your relationship choices. you sought out someone just like your father. someone who drank all the time, was probably emotionally and physically abusive to some degree and was barely in control of himself.

an alcoholic.

relationships are a "choice" and that "choice" is almost always, without exception, to recreate that familiar pattern that you witnessed and experienced growing up - particularly in early relationships.

relationships almost without exception, are a reflection of who you are and whats right or wrong with you and what went right or wrong in your childhood... you found a volitile relationship with an addict, and just like an addict, you had all sorts of ways of rationalizing why he was a good guy and why it was going to work... and it took an attempted rape (the emotional equivalent of an addict bottoming out) to realize you were fucking up your life.

alcohol does not make anyone do anything. alcohol simply reveals who and what we are... whats behind the mask.

... but you were in a relationship with that guy... so you already knew what was behind the mask. in fact, you knew before you met him because you were subconsciously seeking out that exact personality.