05-04-2003, 04:15 PM
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Originally posted by Carrie
I don't see how she showed her mental instability by stating your profession and the fact that you're in arrears. That's not mental instability, that's showing that you have the means to pay the child support but aren't doing it (while trying to blemish your character because of your profession, of course).
Now if you ARE paying the child support, then she's perjuring herself in front of the court - make sure you talk with your lawyer about that and if she does it again, he can move to have her found in contempt as long as he has the proof that you *have* been making the payments.
As for the video tape, save it. Don't bring it out right in the beginning or her lawyer (or she herself) will come at you guns blazing. Let her show what cards she has and is going to play, and do this cleanly. If you still feel at the end that you may lose the case, *then* bring it out, as a last resort. You may want to mention it ("your honor, I even found her drunk and passed out while the baby" blah blah blah) and when she says it's not true, just quietly say that you have proof of it. But don't go waving it around the minute you get in there, or it makes you look like a bitter bastard who's more concerned with slamming her than with presenting a good case as to why YOU should get the children.
Let that be your focus - why you are a GOOD candidate for the children, not why she is a BAD candidate for the children. Let her damn herself, while you focus on the positive things and look both stable and professional in comparison.
Just keep cool. I know she's done you wrong big time, but her time will come. Fate has a way of dealing with these things and living well really IS the best revenge.
Best of luck hon.
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