PSD

I'm new to link exchange scripts and services. Seems all the ones I have seen so far require one to actively seek out link trade partners or wait for webmasters to request a trade after finding out about ones site on some list or at ones own site. If that is the case that's fine but is there any services/software out there where you can upload domains in bulk, categorize them, put some php code on ones site, and links to related sites appear on my pages and my link appears on related sites in the same way with some kind of way to track and limit how often peoples links appear on others sites based on how many outgoing clicks each has sent?