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Sure, there are tons of unhappy marriages everywhere but there is one important thing those guys complaining are forgetting: taking somenthing for granted.
Being with someone for a longer time you start to take for granted a lot of small or not so small things this person does for you. They dont bother you or you dont even think about them because you take them for granted. You get them every day and they make you feel good. But you dont take them into account when evaluation your situation and you only concentrate on things that make your marriage "unbearable". Small things wives do for you (and of course this goes in both ways of course - many women take things the husband does for granted) like cuddling, maybe a delicious meal, helping you fix a tshirt or tie a tie, taking kids to school,washing the clothes or dishes, going somewhere instead of you when you are busy, sharing the work load etc...I mean tons of things that we take for granted and only concentrate on bad things...
It is easy to say marriage sux and this and that while we still take all these things for granted. I 100% agree wit saying that say "only after you lose something you realize how valuable it was to you". But when you have this you hardly see sense in this saying..That is why so many people think "I should just divorce" but when they do then they lose all the good things they took for granted, not only bad things that bothered them.And they feel completely lost..heck, I have heard many people even get suicidal although they should be happy and relived getting out of supposedly bad relationship/marriage. Other people , instead of enjoying their supposed freedom, quickly jump into another ill fated relationship because the lack of things we took for granted affect you so much.
But of course, that is not in all cases - there really are so terrible marriages where the divorce is the best option.
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