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Originally Posted by BlackCrayon
*some* people. others just break and repeat the cycle. how'd they end up to the be such shitty parents in the first place? most likely had something to do with how they were raised.
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In my experience- within my own family and looking into the relationships of my closest friends- shitty adults were created both by shitty parents and by great parents. I guess what I'm trying to say is for some people being surrounded by bad examples can be as beneficial as being raised in an environment of positive examples. I don't really know where the turning point lies- if it's internal and unique to the individual or if it's environmental- but the difference seems to be how the benchmark set by the parents is viewed.
Successful / functioning adults from bad homes seem to share the view point the failures and mediocre acheivements of their parents as low water mark, something they strive to surpass and never emulate, and kids that continue the cycle seem to view it as a median line, something they'd like to surpass but would be satisfied if they at least did as good as their parents.
I think overly supportive parents are equally detrimental as bad parents. The children of some of the most loving families I know can't seem to do things on their own, like Otto is saying. They rely too much on their parents for guidance and support. Maybe the buffers they set up for their children were too great, or their saftey net too large?