I have found that the key to making money from blog traffic is diversity. You need a ton of different revenue streams-- toys, cams, dating, porn subscriptions, whatever will work with your traffic.
Lately, of course, visual porn subscriptions aren't working as well as they used to for anybody, and if you are focusing on stories and such, they aren't likely to be a strong match anyway. You'll have to find just the right ones for your niches, anyway.
Dating and cams have never been a big hit with my blog traffic, but they work for lots of other people. I can't advise you there.
For toys, especially if your stuff has a BDSM flavor, you cannot do better than
The Stockroom. In particular they do regular seasonal sales with stuff marked down sharply. Blog posts promoting sale items tend to actually get shopping carts to the checkout, and the sale prices give you a good excuse for a blog post without being too blatantly commercial -- you're doing your surfer a favor telling them about the good deal.
Diversity, diversity, diversity. You've got to tailor your revenue generators to your traffic, blog by blog and even post by post. You can't use just one program or one tool; if you want to make it, you'll be using dozens.