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Originally posted by Amputate Your Head
damn.... that's rough PK. I hope it all works out for him. Culinary school would be good.
I guess I'm thinking, alot of kids are dumb when it comes to this shit. 18 - 19 year old kids aren't exactly the best decision makers in the world. I sure as hell wasn't. Is it really wrong (as the parent) to lay down the law, so to speak, and tell them what they need to do in order to not be a fuckup? Or is the risk of them turning on you (because of that) too much?
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It's a tough call. Is he living at home, dependent on others? Does he have any concrete plans of his own or does he think the gravy train never stops?
Honestly, if he has a job now or is getting one, etc.... Give him a deadline... tell him by XX date he's living on his own under his own means or he does it your way.
I guess I was 'the good kid'.. I knew all my teen years that I was going to college and what I was going to do.. but then I was also a straight A student who never had to crack a book to study so more schooling didn't seem like a waste of time.
Some of my son's friends have told him that their parents are giving them until September and then booting them out the door. I couldn't ever do that to a kid as long as they were making an effort, working, paying me some rent, etc. More than 65% of my son's graduating class is going on to some sort of continued education. I wonder what the parents of the other 35% are doing about now.