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Originally Posted by SallyRand
Just because the women have degrees does not mean that they can escape their biology and inherent makeup.
They perceive you as "broken" and are caretaking; "mothering" you, if you will. They are being "helpers".
Remember that the path from "Helper" to "Enabler" is a short one.
You have on this board indicated that you believe that you have a serious problem with alsohol but that you are trying to stop. Since you believe that you have a problem, you most likely do and should therefore continue your efforts to get the problem under control but no not deceive yourself into thinking that anything long-term or really meaningful will come from any of these "helping" relationships with "degreed" women. Such relatioinships are good for a few rolls in the hay but can in themselves be damaging to you and this is after all, about you.
Having recently come off alcohol, you need to get your feet on the ground before you can enter into any sort of "real" relationship and a helthy one at that or you will right back sucking at the tap in short order. Enjoy the sex and the fun but do not let those things take precedence over your own well-being.
Although I abhor 12-Step programs the idea of "taking it easy" is a good one, so take it easy and take care of yourself.
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You seem to have a lot of knowledge about a lot of things, but you couldn't be more off of the mark than you are, on this one. The last thing in the world I need is "mothering" as I've "taken care of" people all of my life. I change peoples lives, and for the better.
There's nothing broken about me. I'm a whole person. You assume that I drank to fill a void within myself, but I didn't. I drank to feel less murderous toward the subhuman morons I was constantly dealing with.... I drank to not care (or to care as little as the people around me) ... sometimes it has to be MY TURN not to care, right?
I have one hell of a problem with alcohol and I always will. Even stone sober, an alcoholic still has the problem. It does not ever go away. But the solution to it is sobriety. I don't need anyone to hold my hand or guide me, BUT ME.
You DO realize that I am a dominant male who sees submissive women, right? There's no "mothering". And I don't look for the weak minded or spineless ones, either. I see intelligent TOUGH accomplished females, because I am a wonderful person who solves problems and I'm good at making women COMFORTABLE, fulfilling their need to feel like they're with a raw dog and I'm not bad at making them cum... either. Plus... I am caring and compassionate. All of that, in one.
Talk about being mothered hell my MOTHER had a huge stroke when I was twelve and couldn't walk or talk or write... She came out of it as a different person I STILL don't know... if you want to talk about a mother.. She was loving and caring and a good mother but I haven't known her in a couple of decades, pal