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Originally Posted by digitaldivas
Due to ravaged self esteems and self loathing, it's usually harder to connect with these women. Harder than skinny or athletic women, actually, imho.
And I blurt stupid shit out sometimes when I'm nervous, like
"i'm going to go home and masturbate and think about you"
or
"i love voluptuous women because they sweat more and oh, btw, i have a foot fetish 
...I would think that these tawdry little comments would at least endear me to them in some way, or...  |
Would you say stupid shit like that to me or any person other than a date? Here's a suggestion from an ugly nerd who nevertheless managed to hook up with a lot of hot women. Attractive women are people. Just talk to them like any other person who is interesting to talk to. If you get mega horny on a date, masturbate two or three times before the date so that you no longer really care. Get used to talking to people by saying something to all the women around you - in line at the grocery store, your waitress, etc. Young women, old women, hot women, ugly women - talk to them all just to get REALLY comfortable talking to women. (Being careful what you say to young women who are underage of course.)
A joke about a situation or complimenting their jewelry is normally good. A lot of jewelry has a story attached, so asking where they found such an interesting piece is a conversation starter.
Once you becomed accustomed to such chit chat you won't "blurt out stupid stuff" any more. I'm a really funny looking geek, but I found that even super hot women enjoyed taking to me when I relaxed and just chatted with them much like I would my brother, and LISTENED to what they had to say.
Once you're at that point, my experience is that people with lower self esteem crave the attention and company. A woman who never really thought she was attractive will do anything to hear you say that she is. Don't get into "fat fetish", "I like black girls" or "tiny tits are hot". Tell them you like THEM - and mean it. (Yeah that means listening to learn what's attractive about them besides their boobs.) You can absolutely connect with anyone in the world if you truly appreciate what's important to them.
Just the opinion of one ugly nerd former player with a hot young wife.