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Originally Posted by TheSquealer
You're a dysfunctional person, she's a dysfunctional person... you are both in a dysfunctional relationship.
Until you understand, change and improve yourself, you'll always be in dysfunctional relationships.
Until that time, one lunatic is just as good as another. No reason to change. You'll seek them out no matter what. Breaking up for you is nothing more than changing the physical traits of the exact same personality that will continue to make you unhappy.
It's not a stretch to assume your mother is a total lunatic. Maybe an alcoholic/pill popper. She's most likely a very abusive personality, for whatever reason.
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She wasn't dysfunctional when I met her and I moved to this town to get the HELL away from my family and start over a little.. In that town I was in, I was the problem solver for them all. It drove me crazy dealing with stupid yet intense problems they all cause. My mother is crazy but has never done any drugs or alcohol- she is just off because of a huge stroke back in 1996 ... she has a lack of compassion a lot of the time, and acts like a child often .. My father was extremely tough on me when I was a child and it wasn't easy .. for example when I was fifteen I was making his truck payment ..
But I definitely wasn't seeking a dysfunctional person and don't believe I was dysfunctional when I moved here. My "new start" just ended up being consumed by her getting sick, I have not had a chance. I went right back into the problem solver role. Spent my money every dime on her, driving her everywhere, etc.
I had no time or money left for ANYTHING I wanted. I could not even buy a stupid $20 cd player for my god damned car.
Maybe I seek out the role of problem solver in order to avoid dealing with my own issues. I have though that for awhile now. I also seem to be punishing myself for something. I'm not sure.
And then this woman when she is more loyal to this religious nut friend of hers, and joins her jewelry sales cult, and goes completely opposite of what I tell her, it makes me so mad. How dare she go and rent a room I told her not to, or waste the money on the jewelry cult behind my back? I was not in town when she got that money, and she purposely evaded me when I asked if the money came in so she could go and give it to the cult
All I ever asked of ANYONE was the same fucking LOYALTY I show time and again
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