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My father was physically invalid for the last decade of his life, so my brother and I saw to it that our Dad was well taken care of in his twilight years.
You need to be constantly vigilant though, monitoring the situation to ensure he is not getting bedsores, that the treatment he receives when you are not there is the same as when you are visiting, etc.
The bureaucracy and red tape is maddening.
We finally had to have him declare bankruptcy and have his medicare and VA benefits deposited directly to the hospice, and everything was fine after that until he finally decided he no longer wished to be kept alive by life support, and he simply told my Uncle that it was time for him to get on his way, and to have the nurses remove the tubes keeping him alive.
I still miss him every single day, but I am thankful for the good care that he received, and I know that we made his final years more bearable.
Good luck with your situation. There are some excellent support networks for families too, so spend some time doing research and hopefully you can come up with a good alternative.
ADG
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