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kane · 01-07-2012, 02:38 PM

Over the past 3 years my mom has been in and out of a couple of nursing homes for a few different things. She had been in three different homes. One was good, one was bad and one was horrible.

There is a ton of great advice in this thread. One thing I might add is that there are a lot of places out there so make sure to visit several. Depending on where you live you can also call the social security office and ask if they have a disables persons advocate or elderly advocate that you can meet with. This is a person who's job it is to make sure that people get good care. They can help lead you to good homes and give you some good ideas for resources. The advocate where I live was amazing. I first met her when my mom was in the terrible home that kept screwing up her medicine. She came in, kicked ass and took names and got results.

When you visit a home here are a few things to check out: 1. the smell. It is going to have that antiseptic smell, but if it smells like shit and piss they might be understaffed and the place might be unclean. 2. the food. ask about the food. Visit the kitchen and see if it is clean and if it appears to be staffed by normal people not tweekers. 3. Ask if you can talk to some of the other residents. If they won't let you that is a warning sign. If they don't mind just ask around, ask how people feel about living there and so on. You might be shocked at how honest some of the people are. 4. staff. Ask about how many nurses/CNA/staff they have per person. If it seems like a huge ratio like 40 people per staff member they might be overworked and the care level could suffer.

Anyway, there are just a few things I picked up in dealing with some of this stuff. It is tough and I wish her and your family well.

01-07-2012, 02:38 PM
kane Too lazy to set a custom title Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: portland, OR Posts: 20,684	Over the past 3 years my mom has been in and out of a couple of nursing homes for a few different things. She had been in three different homes. One was good, one was bad and one was horrible. There is a ton of great advice in this thread. One thing I might add is that there are a lot of places out there so make sure to visit several. Depending on where you live you can also call the social security office and ask if they have a disables persons advocate or elderly advocate that you can meet with. This is a person who's job it is to make sure that people get good care. They can help lead you to good homes and give you some good ideas for resources. The advocate where I live was amazing. I first met her when my mom was in the terrible home that kept screwing up her medicine. She came in, kicked ass and took names and got results. When you visit a home here are a few things to check out: 1. the smell. It is going to have that antiseptic smell, but if it smells like shit and piss they might be understaffed and the place might be unclean. 2. the food. ask about the food. Visit the kitchen and see if it is clean and if it appears to be staffed by normal people not tweekers. 3. Ask if you can talk to some of the other residents. If they won't let you that is a warning sign. If they don't mind just ask around, ask how people feel about living there and so on. You might be shocked at how honest some of the people are. 4. staff. Ask about how many nurses/CNA/staff they have per person. If it seems like a huge ratio like 40 people per staff member they might be overworked and the care level could suffer. Anyway, there are just a few things I picked up in dealing with some of this stuff. It is tough and I wish her and your family well.