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Originally Posted by iwantchixx
Man that hits a nerve and pulls at my heart strings right there for a few reasons.
My son's mother and her mother did the same f'ing thing with my boy for 6 years and wondered why he was kicked out of every daycare he's been at then stuffed in a rubber-room by grade 1 and kicked off the schoolbus.
He has ZERO consequences. He can hit, bite, beat, torture, hurt and threaten anyone he wants. He was more-or-less rewarded.
It all finally came crumbling down when within a week he spit in his mothers face (got rewarded by pizza in the park to calm him down) and had social services step in to put an end to his schoolyard behaviour.
Now they have him classified as ODD (Opositional Defiance Disorder), have full-time nanny/assistant in class with him so he doesnt act up and so he actually does his work and has "nintendo" time when he feels he is about to freak out.
The boy has NO sense of responsibility, wants to kill everyone who disagrees with him and takes 30 minutes to get shoes on for school. HE calls the shots everywhere he goes.
Except here. he is a perfect angel here, knows what's expected and very very rarely does anything wrong at all. So I asked him why he does all this stuff....his answer? "Because you and Crystal (my new wifey) won't put up with anything and will give me time-outs).
Even with that being said to mother... answer is always "well you aren't always here, he'd do it to you eventually too if you had him full-time" and "he's sad, he has ODD". Always an excuse...
No he does not have ODD... he just always got to do whatever he wanted when he wanted and now in real life, he can't cope or deal with doing the most minute thing he doesn't want to do,, including school and not hitting people. Now they want to classify him as autism spectrum.. they told him.. so now his excuse is "I have autism, I cant help it".
Drives me nuts... pretty soon in process to do something about it. Next mental breakdown she takes.. which happens very often.. I'm going for custody.
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That all sounds very familiar. My nephew, when he was a freshman in high school had a friend who had been arrested and was on some kind of probation. As part of this probation he was not allowed to leave the school campus for lunch, but he did anyway. One day he got caught. So instead of facing the music he talks my nephew and another friend into helping him "get out of town." So they left school at lunch, took this guy's mom's car and started driving to Los Angeles (1000 miles away). Apparently this kid had a friend that had recently moved there so he decided they would go live with him.
So the kid's mom comes home from work and sees the car is gone so she reports it stolen then a few hours later when he son doesn't come home from school she realizes that he took it. After several hours the three families of these boys have talked to each other and the police and have realized what is happening. Eventually, around 9pm, my nephew calls him mom. The boys made it about 50 miles away before being stopped by the police because the car was still reported as stolen. The cops released him to her and she went to get him.
Instead of kicking his ass, grounding him or doing any kind of discipline, she took him out to dinner (because he was scared and hungry) then took him over to another friend's house where they played video games for a few hours until they knew my brother was asleep so they could avoid dealing with him because he was rightfully pissed off.
When asked about it she defends him and says he was just trying to help a friend so not only did he not get in trouble, she made it out like he had done something good. It is just crazy.