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Originally Posted by xinyonghu
Hi.everyone. we want to have a baby. and I want to know somethings before having a baby. cut out smoking and drinking？ doing physical exercises? Do you have this experience?  |
1. Have regular job with constant , regular incomes.
2. The money are important since the mother should stay at home and watch out for the baby.
3. Less sleeping, less sex with the mother, less fun /especially if you get used to night life/
4. Quit smoking is good start. Smell of tobacco and smoke is unpleasant to the baby.It will remember you with that smell anyway. Drinking does not mix with baby sitting. You should be sober all the time, because the mother will need to take a rest - sleep - eat - visiting the bathroom, when there are no other helper. A drunk daddy will be hell of a mess. If baby is sick, you should drive mom and baby to the hospital. That won't happen if daddy is drunk.
5. Spare money as you can aside. Make everything you can to make more money as soon as possible. Get bigger house, with more rooms, water and reach to hospital and kindergarden and/or school near the new place.
6. Find new friends - married guys with children. The single ones will not understand you whatever you do. No more fun, no more sex. You will get grey hair in no time.
7. Try to make the baby sleep in it's own bed/bedroom from start.
8. Wait for the mom to restore her health after birth - at least 2-4 months. Your kid came out of her vagina. Pray the lord the doctors will sew her properly so you can feel her the same way as before birth.
9. The baby is the most important , but don't forget the mother. After work bring present not only to the baby, but to mom as well - flowers, candy - something she like. Babies sleep and wake up in every 2-4 hours. In the mean time a grateful mom can give you a blow job.
10. If you work at home, put your work desk in another room!
P.S. To be a dad is not easy task. It's not just a title just because you made some kids, that's responsibility, presence and you will be always unprepared - never mind how rich or good you are. This is how you get experience.
As far as I know chinese families has strong ties, with respect for the elders and the figure of the father is important and without doubts the major one. You won't be having any problems.
Cheers.
M.