the one thing he needs to understand is that you can't change people. if you can't accept the person you are with for exactly who they are in that moment, you need to walk away. wishing, hoping and thinking change will come if only you show the person how great life can be in better circumstances is a pipe dream and you are fooling yourself. not saying that can't happen but it's a crap shoot. what you see is usually what you get. he should not go down the rabbit hole with her in my opinion
