Originally Posted by stillsexy

Hi there,

I have a friend who is facing a loving yet terrible relationship that he has no idea how to deal with. I am not sure if I could get a good advice from any of you guys here, but I will give it a try, and see if I could pass him some good advices from you guys. When he told me, I was speechless, I have absolutely no idea how to help him.

Here is a story...

A guy falls in love in a girl because of her personality and decent appearance. They both have been together for almost 2 years. However, the girl came from an unfortunately family background. Her dad is in the prison and her mum is dating someone else whom she hates him very much. She is a divorcee. Most of her closed friends are divorcees as well. All of them are alcoholic including her single mother friends. They all have problematic relationships. The guy has to quietly listen to all the stories of her friends' problematic relationships. Besides that, she has a $30k bank loan due to over-spending and business failure, this will take her some time to pay off. Though, she did not come from a normal family, she acknowledges her misfortune and tries to be as positive as possible. she has many relatives and friends who love her and are willing to help her if she needs help including money, they all understand the circumstance she is facing.

She probably has all the guys want in a girl. She is pretty, adorable, cheerful and submissive. And she loves children. She is very loyal to him as well. The guy is a well educated decent guy who came from a decent family. He is ambitious, he has a lot of plans ahead of him. He wants to have a family. However, he is too afraid to marry to this girl even though they are deeply in love. He is too scared to fall into her social circle that might potentially jeopardize his future. He has been consistently staying away from most of her friends. He could hardly find anything in common in front of her friends.

I think that's the best I could describe here. What do you think they should do? Should they break up? Should the the man ask the girl to leave her circle of friends?