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Originally Posted by TheSquealer
As someone who has to deal with this day in and day out and that hears every excuse and rationalization in the book, i will tell you that's about as effective as telling a heroin addict "hey, maybe you should stop heroin".
No one changes themselves until they want to change. All that however, has nothing to do with the individuals choice to be morbidly obese and unhealthy. At some point, an adult is supposed to act like an adult and take responsibility for their actions and decisions.
Besides, it shouldn't be a crime to say "you're fat" - when its a blatantly obvious fact. Tom Cruise is short. I seriously doubt he runs away and cries every time someone says "wow, i thought you'd be taller". No one has the power to hurt you unless you give them that power.
You want to know how many fat people get picked on for sincerely trying to lose weight in a gym? ~0-ish.
How many obese people get picked on in a restaurant after downing 3000 calories in a single sitting each day? probably quite a few.
Being obese is a choice.
Part of the consequence of that choice is being unhealthy and being looked at by society as an unhealthy, gluttonous person.
We shouldn't be looking at society and sending they message "hey man, be very careful not to let the morbidly obese women know she's morbidly obese"
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Still doesn't make it an inconsiderate dick move to go up to someone and say "Jesus fuck you're fat" You think they don't know they're fat? Do you really need to keep reminding them? There's no benefit to it other than to be an asshole.
And to many, it's a very hurtful thing to hear day in an day out and doesn't help one bit.
Whether I was ready to change my lifestyle and lose weight or not, someone offering me kindly to help me get started or being encouraging is way better than "jesus fat fuck go lose weight".
Be proactive.