No music.
My father died when I was a baby, and his grave was a horrible place for me. It was local to my grandmother's house and I spent my summers there; I would walk there with my boom box and spend hours trying to figure out life while looking at his grave.
Pass. I've instructed my wife that I want to be cremated and buried at sea off of Waikiki Beach....
Like this:
http://www.waikikibeachservices.com/burial-at-sea/