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Originally Posted by epitome
Once I got out I setup some temporary quarters as my dad's and went straight to working putting my life back together. Restarted and was out of Dads before the three month mark. What enabled me to move on so quickly was finding someone that desperately needed what I had to offer. Years since have been my best.
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This is just it. You understood you need to do the work, you understood that you put yourself where you were, you understood that you needed to suck it up and work to get out of it and start putting together a long term plan... to make sure you never ended up in that place again.
You didn't just sit around with one hard luck story after another talking about how nothing is your fault.
You seemed to understand that the simple fact is, everything is our fault. If you are "down on your luck" and people are not scrambling to give you a job because you're an awesome worker, because you do a great job, because you are always on time, because you always do what you said you'd do etc... then its YOUR FAULT. If you produce something for a living and no one wants to buy it.. its your fault. etc ... etc... etc...
This.... this... is not that.
We are talking about a person who was quite happy to do nothing with his life, had frequent sales coupled with hard luck tales and who, if memory serves, started in this biz as an adult living with his mother. 10+ years later, he's still got nothing but sad tales about how the world is against him. That in itself is ... whatever. The world needs ditch diggers. However, when you have a wife and children and you are telling everyone that your non-attempts at success and your failures are not your fault, that you're being evicted and thrown out on the street and its not your fault, that you're broke with a family to feed and its not your fault and you are an able bodied person who is and always has been capable of work.. then you are a burden to society and your family would be better off leaving you behind so they can at least have a chance at a decent life filled with a better parent and role model - than the guy who has nothing but excuses.
Personally, it was amusing that he came here yet again with a sad tale... i had no clue he had kids. When a person has kids and they aren't ready to do anything and everything to take care of them and give them a home.. they are garbage.
This is why i am saying there seems to be some addiction issues here. This behavior is too illogical, too defensive (denying accountability for anything before anyone even asked a question) and too inconsistent and too nutty for there not to be a lot more to the story. His behavior, and what is a clear inability to accept personal responsibility as well as the total lack of remorse for the fact that he put his family on the street highly suggests he's an addict.... that would be the better scenario. Otherwise, that leaves us with sociopath among other things - though sociopaths are typically much more clever and better at manipulating others. Addicts live in denial. Addicts live in a lie. Addicts almost never accept responsibility for their actions. Addicts have little remorse for, much less any real understanding of the chaos they cause. Addicts care very little about how their actions affect others. Addicts would have little remorse for how their actions and behavior affects their children. All these things are quite present and prominent in everything he says.
The thing is... there are countless dozens of people on this board who have fell on hard times over the years and people bent over backwards to give them a job right then and there. Minutes after posting. This guy still doesn't get why no one will do that for him and blames the rest of the world for it. Thats why he CANNOT BE HELPED.